3 Foolproof Ways to Skyrocket Your Charisma

“Mr. Gladstone made me feel that he was the cleverest man in England. But Mr. Disraeli… he made me feel that I was the cleverest woman in England.”
- Mrs. Nash, explaining her impressions of two English statesmen

So you want to be more charismatic?

If you’re feeling impatient, you can just skip to the second half of this article, and read the three specific tips.

Or you can continue reading linearly, and understand much deeper exactly what charisma IS, and what’s the right approach to improving it.

Pick your favorite approach.

There’s no magic charisma pill

First off, some bad news. There is no magic 5-minute solution to becoming the totally most charismatic person ever.

I would love to tell you the answer is smiling more, or mirroring others, or some other quick-fix technique. But it’s not. Trust me, I’ve tried them all, and while they may fool others for a few minutes, they don’t work in the long term.

(It’s especially funny when you try something like mirroring and the other person catches you )

Charisma isn’t one single technique or gimmick. But the good news is… you CAN develop it! And in a moment, I’ll explain why you’re closer than you might think.

The right way to approach charisma

A lot of people can’t figure out charisma simply because they look at it from the wrong angle. They think that charisma must be an outside thing, like a mannerism, a way of speaking, or a way of dressing.

Charisma IS all of those things, but you can’t build your charisma by copying the outside mannerisms. That’s like trying to learn to draw by copying a famous artist’s drawing line-by-line.

Instead, focus on the inside. Charisma is your inside shining through to the outside.

It’s the hundreds of subconscious muscle twitches and mannerisms. You can’t fake those no matter how hard you try. And while they’re subconscious, we can all feel them. That’s why “There’s just something about a charismatic person.”

The right way of approaching charisma is to figure out the inner game of charismatic people, and emulate it. And I’ll save you the years it would take you to figure out the most important bits, and sum them up into 3 bullet points. Aww, aren’t I nice

(Plus, since you’re reading Fun Life Development, you’re already ahead of 90% of the population. You want to consciously improve and grow, and personal development is exactly what will help you become more charismatic. Congrats!)

How to build charisma

Here are 3 foolproof ways to skyrocket your charisma:

1. Have a vision

There are a lot more followers than leaders. There’s nothing inherently wrong with following – some days I lead, and some days I follow. But people are naturally drawn to leaders.

So have a sense of purpose. A vision. A big goal you’re working towards. Your vision might change over time, but if you always have one, people will naturally feel drawn to you, because you will be filling a void in their lives.

2. Love yourself

If you don’t even like yourself, how do you expect others to like you? You are constantly giving others hundreds of little subconscious clues on how to treat you. And it all begins with treating yourself right.

Realize you are a unique and valuable human being. Accept yourself as you are. It’s okay to have flaws and work on improving them. We all have flaws. It’s okay to make mistakes. We all make mistakes.

Have the right intentions, love yourself, and you will hugely boost your charisma.

3. Be honestly interested in others

Have you ever met one of those people who incessantly talk about themselves? At first they might seem like an interesting conversationalist… but soon you’ll start to feel they’re talking at you rather than to you.

Charismatic people have discovered that other people are inherently interesting. If you listen to others, you will learn new interesting things, rather than hearing the same thing you have said 10 times before. And others will like you, because you will make them feel important.

Don’t pretend, though. Really develop the mindset of honestly being interested in others. Because you know what? Other people ARE interesting!

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And that’s it. Enjoy building your charisma!