Thanks! It went well – we had a good time, but I found out she’s not someone I’m romantically interested in. So we keep in touch as friends now.

Now that’s reframing!

If you want, you can think of my blog as “free coaching” advice I give out to everyone. Then it might well be for life

@Anon:

I think you can increase your overall level of happiness, even though you will still have ups and downs.

I think the experiment with people connected to a machine is pretty interesting though. I wouldn’t want that either… there’s just something in my mind telling me that it would pretty much mean my death (I would no longer be anything like who I am), so my self-preservation sense kicks in. (And this same sense probably stops a lot of people from reading any personal development advice, because they’re afraid they will no longer be themselves if they do.)

Also, emotions are funny – they’re kind of sticky. Like… were you ever angry, somebody was telling you to calm down, and you said “NO! I want to be angry!”? (and of course laughed about it later when you calmed down ). I just find it interesting.

The problem often is that people don’t like to develop in such an artificial way, like following instructions in a book. People want to feel that they are something that cannot be created artificially.

I think that the key to become rich and happy is to find the strenght to throw away everything you have and then find the strength to built your person up again in a controlled way using the advices in books.

That is why even fail is good for you. When you fail, you lose something and you are able to get a new and better version of the “something”.

For example a psychology teacher asked the class, whether they would exit the real world and connect to a machine, that would make them eternally happy. Nobody was very excited about the idea.

The mood is in equlibrium, there would be no happiness without suffering and vice versa.

But sadly the idea of the mood in equilibrium is sort of unhappy. People want to believe that they can be happier and happier.

What do you think?

You’ll probably hear quite a bit about my life coaching, since I’m mainly going to get my clients through this blog. And the best of luck with your life coaching (or academic advisory, or whatever) journey!