Comments on: Evil Words to Avoid

By: You Are NOT A Being of Pure Logic

You Are NOT A Being of Pure Logic — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 12:01:50 +0000

[...] Further, I want to make sure you find out what is important to you. Forget what “should” be important to you. (“Should” is such a destructive word, anyway.) [...]

By: How to Escape Mediocrity

How to Escape Mediocrity — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 11:32:27 +0000

[...] I don’t mean to brag about how awesome my life is. I just want to see that how you’re doing will fundamentally affect how you answer the “how are you?” question. (And conversely, the words you use will affect how you feel) [...]

By: How to Stay Motivated Once Your Initial Enthusiasm Wears Off | Fun Life Development

Sat, 28 Nov 2009 12:02:39 +0000

[...] But if you chunk it into 2-hour sub-tasks, you will regularly get the pleasure of ticking off a want-to-do list item. You will visibly see your progress, and stay [...]

By: Vlad Dolezal

Vlad Dolezal — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 11:39:53 +0000

I’ve got another one!

“Try”.

When you “try” to do something, you’re immediately setting yourself up for failure, because you’re not really committed. Instead, say you “will” do something!

By: Vlad Dolezal

Vlad Dolezal — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 14:29:06 +0000

@Aurora:

I like that phrase. You’ll always find people trying to shame you into doing something. As you recognized, the key is to resist their “should”s and do what you believe is best.

Glad you like the post!

By: Aurora

Aurora — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 12:38:08 +0000

The last item reminds me of a book I read awhile ago, The Nature of Jade. The main character, Jade, has panic disorder, and in a discussion with her mom (if i remember correctly), she told her that her therapist said not to let people “should all over her.”

When I first read this post, it reminded me of that phrase, and the combination locked the concept into my mind rather well (I’ve actually started catching myself when I say should). I’m still working on the others, though. But great post, as usual!

By: Vlad Dolezal

Vlad Dolezal — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 07:51:44 +0000

@Tula:

Thanks! I write just for you (and others like you who just don’t feel like leaving a comment).

@Anon:

Just why does that remind me of Microsoft… (Yes, Microsoft really were the best thing ever that happened to the computer industry when they first came along. They turned it from a vertical model (where one vendor provided you with everything from hardware to word processors) to a horizontal model (specialized companies each providing the one thing they were best at)).

@Jonathan:

Ya, the words really matter.

Though you might want to watch the affirmations. There’s some funky stuff at work when you say them:

http://vladdolezal.com/blog/2009/forget-affirmations-action-is-the-key/

By: jonathanfgaro

jonathanfgaro — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 02:11:05 +0000

What we say to yourself on a daily basis is who we become. Its a scary fact, but its also a fun fact because we can say anything to our selves. Why not say the follow

1. Wow , everything I do turns to gold
2. Yes, I CAN
3. Success is running though my veins
4. I deserve to be successful
5. I can do anything i put my mind to
6. I have a slim trim figure
7. I expect to be successful
8. I am a Born Winner
9. I enjoy taking calculated risks
10. I believe in myself

Great post. Is all about the language of the mind.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 17:13:59 +0000

@Sheila:
Yeah, but when Tesla proposed the better AC (to Edison’s DC), Edison tried to destroy the brilliant Tesla.

By: Tula

Tula — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 12:18:27 +0000

Another wonderful column. Thanks for writing it. I am astonished how you consistently inspire me.