Comments on: Understanding

By: My Next Personal Development Experiment – A Woman’s Perspective

My Next Personal Development Experiment – A Woman’s Perspective — Sun, 01 Apr 2012 01:02:08 +0000

[...] often write about the importance of open-mindedness, and considering other people’s perspective in order to understand them [...]

By: Pick One of Your Top Core Values, And Tell Us Why It Rocks (I’ll Start)

Pick One of Your Top Core Values, And Tell Us Why It Rocks (I’ll Start) — Thu, 15 Mar 2012 12:01:16 +0000

[...] I find it fascinating to switch perspectives with people who see things differently. It’s not only interesting, but it also helps you get along better (and feel less angry with) [...]

By: Super-Power Mind States 1 – Curiosity

Super-Power Mind States 1 – Curiosity — Fri, 09 Dec 2011 12:29:36 +0000

[...] nice folks. They simply get caught up in arguments just like you do. And when you take the time to understand others, you will feel less angry and upset about any disagreements you have. [...]

By: Balancing Happiness And Pleasure

Balancing Happiness And Pleasure — Wed, 29 Jun 2011 11:04:34 +0000

[...] not a life style I would personally choose, looking at it from the happiness perspective, it starts to make sense. You probably get an intense feeling of background happiness from being able to give up everything [...]

By: Reframing Strategy #1 – Pre-framing

Reframing Strategy #1 – Pre-framing — Fri, 10 Jun 2011 12:03:07 +0000

[...] general reason why pre-framing specifically works is that it helps you understand the motivation behind people’s actions. And I find that even just understanding the reasoning behind people’s actions often helps [...]

By: How to Be Yourself

How to Be Yourself — Mon, 14 Mar 2011 15:16:13 +0000

[...] like to practice understanding other people’s perspective, so I do see what they’re talking about. Loads of people put on a social mask and do things [...]

By: Empathy – Awareness Week

Empathy – Awareness Week — Wed, 26 Jan 2011 12:04:07 +0000

[...] the situation. Or even just diffuse your frustration with them and see how your points of view are different but equally correct.Quite a few times in my life, I’ve felt frustrated and annoyed at another’s person [...]

By: Keeping a Buffer Zone | Fun Life Development

Keeping a Buffer Zone | Fun Life Development — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 12:03:49 +0000

[...] you don’t think I’m completely obsessed with toilet paper (see Understanding (or why some people put the toilet paper roll in the holder facing the wrong way)), I’ll [...]

By: Tweets that mention Understanding | Fun Life Development -- Topsy.com

Tweets that mention Understanding | Fun Life Development -- Topsy.com — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 00:32:10 +0000

[...] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Meg, irishpolyglot and Vlad Dolezal. Vlad Dolezal said: New on FLD – Understanding (or why some people put in the toilet paper roll facing the wrong way) – http://bit.ly/j7D2F [...]

By: Vlad Dolezal

Vlad Dolezal — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 17:19:01 +0000

@Richard:

Great idea! Instead of approaching it as “your beliefs are wrong, here is why” (Which will never work), you can simply start asking them questions about their beliefs! If you simply act genuinely curious, you won’t raise the ego defenses.

And they’ll either realize that their beliefs are wrong, or they will stick to their beliefs. But in that case you will understand their beliefs better and so feel less angry. Win/win!