Think about all the people in your life – your acquaintances, co-workers and friends. How many of them do you really LOVE hanging out with?
A handful? Now… what if you figured out a way to attract a ton more people like that into your life, instead of being around regular good-but-not-great people?
Luckily, there’s a simple way to meet exactly the type of people you personally will love hanging out with!
1. Figure out what kind of people you most enjoy hanging out with
Of the friends you have right now, what do the most awesome ones have in common? A certain personality? Some hobbies? A way of thinking?
How about outside your circle of friends… what kind of people do you generally just “click” with and have a great time?
Okay. Take a piece of paper and write down the general traits they have in common. The better you know what makes people interesting to you, the easier the next step will be…
2. Figure out where to find them
This is such a simple, and yet such a crucial step to understand.
Different places attract different kinds of people. So once you know what kind of people you want to meet, just figure out what places they frequent, then hang out there.
Do you like health-conscious spiritual people? Join a yoga class, or try meditation. Do you like chubby people? Hang out at weight watchers. Goth people? Spend more time in funky bars, and less time at black-tie dinner events.
3. Forget about pleasing everybody
Don’t put on a fake persona to impress anyone. Every personality attracts some people and repels others, so putting on a fake persona might please your parents, or some of your friends…
But the people you most enjoy hanging out with are naturally attracted to exactly who you are. By putting on a fake persona, you will repel exactly the people you would most enjoy being with!
Just be yourself, with all your quirks and habits and weird humour. Your best friends will only love you all the more.
Now go out and meet some awesome people! 
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What a great post! It has always been so much easier to have people come to me, but it isn’t as satisfying as when I actively go meet the type of people that I am attracted too. Seems so simple and yet, meeting people takes a effort and some planning!
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@Eden:
Yeah, meeting people takes some foresight and planning in the background, but at the same time being completely present-minded and in the moment when you meet them. Devilishly hard to balance!
Hi Vlad,
I want to meet spiritual entrepreneurs, and I haven’t been able to figure out where to meet them. If I go to a yoga class, I don’t find any entrepreneurs, and if I go to a small business networking meeting, I don’t find any spiritualists.
Do you have any suggestions for finding places to meet groups like this that have a small overlap?
@ Pace – Other than Spiritualentrepreneurs.com I have no idea. Maybe you could set up an online meeting place, you a make it happen kinda person.
BTW, I almost think I fit into that group although entrepreneur may be somewhat pushing it.
@Pace:
My gut is telling me to go with entrepreneur first, spiritual second. So… of all the places you could meet entrepreneurs, where would you be most likely to find spiritual ones?
You probably know better than me, because I know only a few entrepreneurs, and even fewer spiritual people. Your subconscious likely has quite a few ideas, if you ask it persistently.
@Vlad: Cool. I’ll keep thinking about it, and I’ll keep looking. Thanks!
@Tim: Oh, I know plenty of spiritual entrepreneurs online. I’m specifically trying to meet some in Austin. And I’m thinking that founding the group might be the right way to go. Thanks. (:
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Such simple, good and effective advice!
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It’s really hard for me to be myself because I used to get ticked when people tested me; which they often do, especially to males, which is for a reason, sometimes. It just bothers me, the double-standards, and how people treat me. Often I feel ignored so I don’t talk to anyone. I think it’s because I’m older and most people my age may be married, but it also may be the way I act. I met a really groovy girl this summer and instead of enjoying the friendship I got all ticked off when she said she was getting married because I figured it was some b.s. to either push me away or hurt me.
It probably would have been better just to chill and let her go about whatever she was in her own way, rather than second-guessing; very of egotistical of me. So, I’m trying to correct that.
In the meantime I have, like, 0 friends. The one guy who doesn’t have kids that I know isn’t on my level. I got along with the 20 year old better I met this summer than I do him; he’s really ornery. Tis girl seemed real genuine and intellectual. I’m not used to that; so, after I threw my meanness in her face I reviewed some of our conversations, and am thinking she really would have been a good friend, possibly. I tend toward younger girls, but I think maybe they don’t dig me as much cause I’m older and often I won’t approach them in public, because I figure there’s a possibility of them not being interested, even though I’m told I look younger. Older girls are fin too, I just gather that they are usually married or not interested also; plus, young girls are cute, right. I would like to meet guys too, but it’s even more awkward approaching them; I think they might think either I must be a loser, especially at the college I attend, or I’m trying to use them to score points with girls or something. The only place I know where people hang out my age is church and that is not my scene. Actually, most scenes and social settings disturb me. I feel like everything is a test and there’s all this competition over just interacting with people respectfully, which, to me, is like bleh… So, I stay home. There was a cool girl at the guitar store that’s 24, but like she’s at work, right..
Last time I went to a like local concert this girl kept walking in front of me; I think she wanted me to talk to her. I wish she would just be real and talk rather than just start with some flirtatious chase. Anyway, I had to use the bathroom and she was gone when I came back. Plus, going out costs money; then, when I do I feel like people look at me like I’m a piece of dog mess.
Maybe I’ll try out for a band or something and get to know people that way.
I am so bummed about the way I’ve been and I’m not sure how much of it is people actually treating me bad or me just being narcisistic, egotistical, and maybe even conceited….
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